I read something pretty impactful the other day. It is this book I am reading It is called "change your questions, change your life" by Wendy Watson Nelson. It has been pretty good so far. very insightful It is all about asking different questions and how some of the questions we ask ourselves are destructive such as. "why do I always?" how come he never?, etc. Well in this one part it was talking about how it seems that a lot of us apologize a lot and make excuses for ourselves and become victims. Even using the excuse of being Busy!
Up until now I never thought about that before. I am always apologizing and making excuses. I use the "Sorry I am just SO BUSY!!!" all the time.
And I am busy! but really most of the time it is just excuse for not doing something I should have. Am I really to busy to call a loved one or friend? Am I really too busy to exercise, or clean my house , or do my visiting teaching, or go on a date or take some time out for my husband or kids? NO not really. It is all a matter of priority and organization.
I know you all do this too. Corey will want to hug me or or kiss me or spend just a few minutes or ask me to sit down with him. AndI say "don't" or "not now I have this and this and this to do" or I will sigh/groan and plop down and look annoyed!
SERIOUSLY am I such a brat and so busy that I can not take time for the man I love. I am lucky he still puts up with my fat grumpy butt, and realize that Romance takes time attention and TWO people. Sometimes I make my honey feel like cleaning bathroom toilet is higher than him on my priority list. That really stinks! {no pun intended}
Because of this I put a statement on my fridge. it says:
"stop saying sorry and being a victim. even a victim of "busyness" !!!!
SO I am just going to own it. I know I should call. I will do better next time. Lets do our visiting teaching earlier this month.
Yes I can take a minute and sit with you to develop our relationship. I should not feel bad if I can not fit something in, because all things will take of themselves.
Don't all of us get very busy. I think especially us women. For some reason we think we should be all things to every person. We over schedule ourselves and then feel guilty if it can not happen, or if we neglect something else. But it is o.k. it's o.k. to not do everything and o.k. to make certain choices to do certain things we feel are a priority and do not have to apologize. {of course unless we do something hurtful or neglectful or totally blow someone of}
SO heres to January 8th 2010! may we no longer be victims of "busyness" Just OWN it!
5 comments:
I was thinking about getting that book...glad that it can have such an impact. Thanks for what you said! Maybe I can make some priority changes for 2010 too
That sounds like a great book. I'll have to check that out.
I will have you know that I often go to your blog (or FB) when I need a little inspiration and you never fail me. Move out of " I can't do it..ville" has been my favorite quote as of lately. Keep it coming! I will have to get that book.
What a perfect day for me to read this. Thanks!
I saw a cartoon the other day about a kid that says his mom always says "maybe later." I forget the punchline but I realized that I say that almost every time my kids ask to do something with me. No more! I will try to say yes as often as I reasonably can. And I'm sure it will be more fun for me too.
What a great reminder! Thanks for sharing.
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